Unfortunately, there was a large no-neck who everyone could see had stopped his workout and set his sights on the brunette.
A Player is not someone who gets theirs and leaves a trail of broken hearts. A Player is not someone who jumps from one shallow bed to the next.
A Player is that person who lives life like a legend, puts a woman into a passionate romance and works his job like he built the company. This Player, in particular, has covered the globe as a photojournalist.
Camera in one hand and laptop in the other; I’ve seen the best and the worst across time zones and international waters. In these travels, the foundations of how to play have been learned.
Along with confidence, being physically healthy is a key aspect of not only a well-rounded individual but also a characteristic of a true Player. In the pursuit of getting and staying in shape, this Player has seen more than his share of men at the gym practice the same exercise: the crash and burn. Seeing a beautiful woman sashaying out of the changing room and onto the gym floor is no reason to lose your mind, your skills and your status as a Player. However, keep in mind that you’ll need to be on your best game when you try to pick up women at the gym because a “StairMaster Seductress” is there to listen to her iPod and workout, not to be hit on by every guy and his brother. Get ready, because you’ll be working out your body and your mind, Player.
I was nearing the top of the rock wall in the gymnasium -- my attractive lady friend and I were practicing for a climb outdoors next week -- when I noticed a beautiful brunette walk out of the changing room and into the cardio room. By her clothing and demeanor, I could tell she was all about exercising. But the delicious bounce to her well-kept curves made every man trip and fall over the benches and the treadmills. Unfortunately, there was a large no-neck who everyone could see had stopped his workout and set his sights on the brunette.
Day one
No-Neck paces and waits, watching the beauty on the treadmill. A good 10 to 15 minutes go by before he finally goes up to talk to her. I could see him forming thoughts in his head; I could see his lips mumble as he tried, tested and threw out lines to use on the lovely. He joined her on the treadmill next to her. The muscle-bound wannabe Player set the machine for a superhuman speed, which he can barely maintain. Another 20 minutes pass before he settles on the line and discovers the right amount of nerve. As he turns to talk to the glute-working goddess, she steps down from the machine and leaves the gym. No-Neck curses his lack of game… just as he falls off the machine.Day two
It’s another day of exercising for the big climb next week. Today my lovely fellow climber and I are working on upper body strength. With one eye on her pectorals and another watching No-Neck, I see him trip up again. He’s shown up at the gym at the same time as yesterday. As he constantly keeps looking around, it’s obvious he’s waiting to see the brunette from the other day. Suddenly, she arrives and mounts the step machine. No-Neck pops up and onto the machine next to her once again.
No-Neck: I see you like to train hard!
Sexy Brunette: (She says nothing; there’s no response, and she continues to work out on the machine.)
No-Neck: So, come here often?
Sexy Brunette: (No response, again.)
No-Neck: (Foolishly ogling her breasts.) You have a really nice body! I think you're the hottest girl in this gym.
Sexy Brunette: (Looks toward No-Neck, gives him a smirk, turns her head and continues to look ahead.)
Sexy Brunette: (Looks toward No-Neck, gives him a smirk, turns her head and continues to look ahead.)
No-Neck: (Thinks to himself: "Yes, she looked at me. I am so in.") So are you seeing anyone? Are you married?
Sexy Brunette: While getting off the step machine, turns off her MP3 player and says: “I'm sorry, were you talking to me? I had my music on and couldn't hear a word you were saying.”
No-Neck: Ahh… Yeah, I was asking if you'd like to go out with me, my brother and his wife."
Sexy Brunette: With both of them?
No-Neck: Yes, with both of them.
Sexy Brunette: I don't really have time, but thanks for offering.
No-Neck: “What?” He thinks to himself just before he falls off the machine -- again.
Sexy Brunette: I don't really have time, but thanks for offering.
No-Neck: “What?” He thinks to himself just before he falls off the machine -- again.
If you want to know how to pick up women at the gym, you’re going to have to keep reading for the Player’s advice…
Keeping it real
Be empowered, because a key element of any worthy Player is the knowledge that he can approach and engage almost any woman at anytime, anywhere. This is not arrogance, but an understanding of the key skills brought to the table -- confidence, good looks and personality. Even if you may be lacking some of these abilities, have no fear: You can still approach the cutie across the gym. Today we’re focusing on teaching the average guy how to approach and pick up women at the gym.
While you are developing your Player skills, understand that this strategy at picking up a “Pilate Hottie” will take time, trial and error, and patience. Let’s get your skills right and set you out for a few reps, a few sets and a shot at the luscious ladies in leotards and cable-fly cuties.
Now gym-e some booty
Contrary to popular belief, a gym is one of the easier places to meet women. Knowing the underlying culture in a gym can lead a Player to meeting and dating any single woman working out. Worst-case scenario: You may befriend a great girl who becomes a good friend -- and even possibly meet her single friends.
One of the key aspects to picking up a girl in the gym is for you to be at the gym for the same reason: to actually train. If you go to the gym as a watering hole for your next conquest, you’ve screwed yourself from the word go. However, if you go to the gym to workout and focus on your own physical fitness, you will be surprised at the number of females that you are able to approach and engage with.
Your first objectives
Health clubs are now about their own culture and their own rules of etiquette. Breaking these rules and going against the flow will lead you to find permanent status as the gym jackass and lead you to being kicked out.
The following suggestions are five objectives for you to shoot for to aid in your pursuit of gym hook ups:
- Befriend the gym management and staff. Start with just saying hello. Be pleasant and sincere and engage in small talk every time you walk in. Attend gym events if possible and become a positive presence in the facility.
- Learn the proper techniques of exercising. This is a key objective for two reasons: First, this ensures your body is actually getting the physical exercise it needs. Also, knowing how to exercise correctly enables you to give assistance to the struggling beauty needing help with her workout.
- Get in shape. A gym is full of competition, some of which is swollen and full of steroids and their own ego. Women do not respond to giant no-neck apes, but they will notice a man who keeps in shape.
- Socialize with everyone, including men. Once again, become a presence. When you become a person to know in the gym, it will make approaching that gym cutie much easier. She will see you with less threat and will likely allow you to approach her.
- Speak to all women. Regardless of their looks, you have to talk to all of the women in the gym. This is important because it separates you from the douches that are only out scoping the hotties; you’ll cultivate an image as a good guy, which you are. This also plays on the natural jealous reaction that women can have. Seeing you talking to every woman will initiate an approach and interest within the beauty that you haven’t approached. She’ll want to be the next girl that knows you.
understanding women
Essentially, there are two types of women that work out in the gym: the mutes and the chatterers. Knowing one from the other will help you focus the right charm and the correct moves on the woman you want with minimal trial and error.The Mute
Consider this woman one to avoid. She is there to exercise and will see your approaches as an annoyance. She’s there to workout, not to be bothered by your attempts at game. Leave her be.Spot the mute: Her workout attire normally includes a baseball cap, earphones, an MP3 player, and water. She avoids eye contact and conversation with others. She looks at the floor as she moves from machine to machine.
The Chatterer
Here’s your target. The Chatterer is there to meet people and you’re there to meet her. She likes to socialize and converse. The Chatterer enjoys working out, hanging out with friends, checking her Facebook status, getting some male attention, and boosting her self-esteem.
Learn what turns her on and off at the gym…Spot the chatterer: Being a social creature, she will normally gravitate to the water fountain before the exercise equipment. She’s there to talk more than to workout. Her training regimen is sporadic and her technique is probably in need of some work. This is a perfect chance to swoop in and give her some pointers. Consider even inviting her to train with you.
Not every man is a growing Player like you. Some are oblivious to handling themselves and the etiquette that goes with a health club or gym. Review the do’s and don’ts below; they will lead you to achieving your five main objectives.
We’ll start with arousing your gym cutie first.
Turn-ons
Smile and speak. A simple “Hi” or “Hello” will do. Then leave her alone for the rest of the workout -- unless she invites you to talk more or even workout with her. This creates mystery and separates you from the pack.If you see a woman struggling with her weights, spot her. However, don’t use this as an opening to begin socializing and laying out your game -- unless she invites you to more conversation.
Give her tips when she’s exercising incorrectly and point out when she is excelling at her exercise (i.e., a great runner, good rock wall climber, etc.). Suggest or commend and then leave her alone -- unless she, once again, invites you to stick around.
Ask her for a spot; however, refrain from using this as a chance to ask for her phone number or e-mail -- unless she gives it to you.
Be funny and charming: Once you’re sure her earphones are not on, offer to fill up her empty water bottle. Better yet, if she has no water, bring her a cup of water and let her know she was looking thirsty. Avoid being too serious; this is a way to begin a conversation and to let her see something she’s not used to: a gentleman in the gym.
Wear the gear that suits your sport or you will look ignorant.
Turn-offs
Staring at women and following them around the gym is an instant turn-off. Workout stalker, you’re headed for an arrest.
Do not flex in front of the mirrors -- you'll look like a prima donna. Avoid machismo and its associated noises because it will sound as if all you need for an orgasm is yourself and your ego. (Either that or it will sound like you’re enduring torture.) Keep the noises just to the actual moments of exercise.
Be hygienic. No matter how good or confident you look, women detest men who are not clean and hygienic, even during a workout. If you sweat like the guilty, smell like a farm animal or leave puddles on the equipment and never wipe it down, jog your chances right out the window. Remember the power of deodorant before you begin working out.
It is acceptable to smell fresh, but do not overdo it. You are not a lace-and-doily 14th century prince, so do not smell better than your beautiful target in the gym. Do not bathe in cologne and do not exercise dressed like you are at the club.
Don't comment or give compliments on body parts. Avoid statements along the lines of: "You have well-defined pecs”; “Great legs”; “You put a lot of work into your glutes”; or “It is obvious you workout because of your body.”
Don’t whistle or catcall. These types of actions will show you to be the jackass you are acting like. This is a gym, this is a classy in-shape beauty and you’re a grade-A Player. This is not a construction site.
Don’t touch a woman's body in any way, even while helping her with the weights. If she is a stranger, make doubly sure you’re not touching her or violating her personal space.
Don’t mention anything related to sex or use any innuendos or double entendres. These are the quickest routes to a crashing conversation and making a girl very uncomfortable.
Don’t be impatient. Leading with questions about her relationship status is like dipping your game-winning hand in Texas Hold ‘Em. Get to know her first. You’ll quickly know if she is available or not.
Viral rivals
New hotness equals instant observation. Count on several other men (also known as Viral Rivals) to attempt to step to her before she can get to the stretching mat. Sit back, pace yourself and simply lead with “Hello” after she has finished with the jackals.
Use the Viral Rivals to your advantage. They will make rookie Player mistakes, so watch and learn. While they will hunt and pursue right off the bat, establish an easy-going, nonthreatening rapport. Keep your eyes open, then for the clear and obvious “ask me out” signals. Even reference the Art of Seduction once you’ve established a friendly relationship.
Find out what the Player’s pickup schedule is in the gym…
The Player's pickup schedule
Now that we’ve gone over rules and tips for the gym pickup, it is time to use them. Get ready for The Player's Pickup Training Schedule. Get your gear and grab your water bottle; the real workout just started.Stage 1: Exploration (second day)
The Player says that, while it’s easy to just focus on a woman’s body, learn her body language instead. Look at how she stands, how she interacts with others and how she moves with her music. Observe how self-conscious she may appear and how much chatter she engages in. Reading her level of comfort will let you know how approachable she is when you see her walk in. When you see her relaxing and comfortable, move in and be the face she is used to seeing around.
Use the first two days to establish a solid foundation of non-threat. She may suspect you’re interested, but it should never be painfully obvious. You’re a Player, and your method is based on skill and a touch of subterfuge (smoothness not lies). Rather than go in for the instant conversation, fall back on confident eye contact, a smile and “Hello.” Then get to your workout.
Stage 2: Contact (third day)
With eye contact in place and her body language stating she’s comfortable, make the move. Do not appear hesitant or unsure. Before you move, however, do a quick hygiene check to make sure you’re as good as you know you can be.
Get a feel for how social she is by asking her opinion on a machine she is using. Even go as far to request a spot for yourself. If she opens up in full conversation, you have an opening. If she gives you one-word answers, take this reading seriously as a back-off.
When she is working out with you, do not hover while she does her sets. Move on to something else while she’s doing her exercises. This shows an impersonal approach and it takes you out of the obvious pickup category.
Stage 3: Icebreaker (fourth day)
At this time, begin to move things in a more personal direction. Become friendlier and employ your charm and icebreaking skills for good conversation. Use one of the following to help you begin. They’ve been tried and tested by yours truly.- Offer to fill her water bottle: This will invoke her smile and she’ll appreciate the offer. This will also lead to the verbal or nonverbal invitation for you to stick around.
- Bring her a glass of water and say: "You look like you can use this." With the right amount of charm, she may even invite you to train with her.
Stage 4: Trust Development (two to three weeks)
If she works out at the same time every day and makes a point to walk by you during your workout, you have some interest building. She is more than likely finding you interesting and is awaiting another enjoyable encounter with you.
Develop your friendship during this stage. Read her and listen to her to determine if she’s available. Sincerely earn her trust, but do not get too personal as this can cement you in the harmless "good friend" category. Talk about exercise and also about things outside of your shared environment (the gym). Discuss friends, school, work, etc.; however, keep the conversation on issues of being healthy so your amorous intentions do not preview themselves too soon.
Stage 5: The Invitation
You’ve built a rapport, so go for the invitation out. Include her and her friends out for a drink of coffee. Be confident and lead off with: “Hey, I’d like you and your friends to meet me out for coffee this week. How’s Thursday?”
When (not if) you pick up the wanton weight lifter, do not kiss and tell. You’re a Player and a gentleman. Plus, if things do not work out, keeping your romantic details between each other will make a breakup easier, more amicable and keep your reputation solid.
Believe this is too much work and time invested? You won’t feel this way when you have established a solid foundation with the women at the gym. You will have a base of potential pickups or potential hookups with their friends. Moving too fast will lead to a Player crash and burn, and you’ll see your lovely mistake every time you go to work out.
Time is the key to avoiding humiliation. NBA star Jason Kidd spoke of dedication when he said: “A lot of late nights in the gym, a lot of early mornings, especially when your friends are going out, you're going to the gym -- those are the sacrifices that you have to make if you want to be an NBA basketball player.” In your case, you just want to be a Player. So do the work, do the workout, get the girl, and don’t hate The Player.
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